Am I A Failure, Or Should I Just Be Realistic And Adjust?

OK, we’re in the middle of February, and I haven’t done as well on my goals as I thought I would. There were things that came up that I had no warning about or control of, and there were some days it couldn’t be done for other reasons. Bottom line; I have a decision to make. The sooner I make it, the sooner I can get back on track. It may be an altered track, but back on a track.

I haven’t written as much as I planned, but I have written more than I would have. The 500 words per day goal isn’t doable right now, so I’ll adjust that. I haven’t gotten all that spring (winter) cleaning done for the same reasons, but again, I have done more than I would have without written goals.

The water therapy is a must; I must find a way to manage it. The complication is that the only hot water exercise pool is 30 minutes in the opposite direction from home as the town where we do everything else, making these two towns about 50 minutes apart. That will take some flexibility and planning, but it is manageable.

I’m determined to finish all those unfinished projects and promises. Genealogy is also important to me, and I want to pick that back up.

So am I a failure in that I haven’t fully succeeded? Or should I just be realistic about what I now know I’m not physically able to do, and adjust. Well, I can tell you that I don’t see myself as a failure at all. I see myself as a success in what was accomplished. I just need to adjust to what is more realistic for me.

Here are my newly set goals:

Daily: Spend 10 – 30 minutes in Bible study and devotional. This, by the way, does not include the many times during the day that I pray for needs and requests that are sent my way. It also doesn’t include those times when I think of a word in a verse, and stop what I’m doing to look up the root meaning.

Do physical therapy at home a.m. and p.m. For the morning therapy right now, I’m going to do something fun. Dance Praise and line dancing will take the place of those exercises. I’m getting excited just writing this, so I think that’s promising.

Write 250 words, and read in one of my text books at least 15 minutes every day.


Weekly: Do water therapy at center with hot exercise pool.

Complete at least one unfinished project until I am caught up.


Monthly: Work on genealogy at least one day, possibly two, depending on obligations already on my calendar.


Yearly: Send two completed projects to children’s magazines.

One children’s book project complete package would take the place of two book stories.


My daughter’s boyfriend shared advice on setting goals that his Mom had given him one day. His mom always told him to never set more than 10 things to do a day or he would get overwhelmed. I have to agree with that. Personally, it works that way with me. I feel like I have a second wind, and real hope of not just getting something done, but accomplishing my goals.  When I give myself permission to regroup and adjust, I give myself opportunity to be realistic and honest with myself and others.

Now as I pick myself up and start again, I hope you’ll share your experiences with me. I’d love to learn what works for you.

Be blessed, my friends.


4 thoughts on “Am I A Failure, Or Should I Just Be Realistic And Adjust?

  1. Wow, you certainly are organized! I wish I could say the same. I set goals and really do feel like a failure when I don’t meet them–which is most of the time. It does help to write them down and carry them around with me. Yet, if I don’t regularly check my list, I’m in trouble. I just keep on trying–and praying.


    1. Well, I think the reason I appear organized at all is because if I don’t itemize things so I can check them off a list, I don’t get anything done. I find myself feeling like a failure, too, sometimes, but I look at what I did do, and decide I’m not such a failure after all. 🙂 I also have to keep going to the list to remind myself what I’m supposed to be doing. We’re not different at all in that respect. We’ll just keep on trying-and praying.


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